If you are considering getting a divorce and aren’t sure when you should do it, one thing to keep in mind is that there will never be an ideal time to divorce. A divorce is going to be a complicated event no matter when it happens.
While there might be times when it’s more reasonable to go through divorce with fewer issues, if you’re struggling with your marriage, any time can be the appropriate time to discuss divorcing. The last thing you should want is to stay in a relationship that isn’t right for you just because you’re not sure the timing is right.
Even if the timing seems off, you can take steps to prepare for a divorce
If the timing of your decision to divorce seems to be off, you may want to instead focus on what you can do to prepare before you seek a divorce.
Taking steps like opening your own bank account or gathering copies of your legal documents are both good ways to start preparing for your divorce. Taking photos of your assets and belongings, looking for receipts to prove which pieces of property are separate and collecting the passwords and log-in information to accounts you don’t use often will all help you as you begin to build your own case.
When you take the time to prepare these documents, you’ll be in a better position to approach your spouse and ask for a divorce. After you do that, if your spouse locks you out of online accounts or takes copies of documents in the home, you’ll have your own copies and information to look over. This takes at least some of the stress out of the situation.
When you bring up divorcing, wait for a calm day
If you do want to bring up divorcing, wait until you have a calmer day to do so. Asking for a divorce can be an upsetting request, so you want to talk to your spouse when they are in the best headspace. Wait until you’re both relaxed and have the time to talk about your decision, so you can move forward as positively as possible afterward.