You finally got fed up with everything that’s happening in your marriage. You were ready to get a divorce – and you almost made that necessary call that would give you a new life when you put down the phone and decided to reconsider.
You’re far from alone. This happens often to people who second-guess their decision to leave an unhappy marriage. Many people who eventually get a divorce later regret not doing it sooner.
If you’re still tearing yourself apart about this decision, here’s what you should know:
Not every marriage can be saved
Some people realize that they were once in a happy marriage with a spouse that cared and supported them through thick and thin, but people change and so can the dynamic of a marriage. However, memories of a better time may push people to seek marriage counseling in an attempt to try and fix the problems they are experiencing with their spouse. Marriage counseling, however, may only go so far – and it may just delay the inevitable.
While therapy may give you a time and place to work out the issues in your marriage, that doesn’t mean your spouse will cooperate – some people just don’t want to fix their marriage. If your spouse is refusing to work with you in therapy, then your spouse may have already decided your marriage is over.
Yet, you may have noticed some changes after a few sessions of therapy. This could mean you’re on the right track to fixing your marriage, but that doesn’t guarantee your issues are eliminated. If you find difficulty maintaining your marriage after therapy, then the issues may be deeply rooted and only resurface after more therapy – eventually causing you to lose more money and time out of your life.
If your marriage continues to trouble you, then it may be time to consider your options. You may find moving on with your life is the best decision you make.