Over the last year, you’ve gotten used to having a lot of conflict in your relationship. It seems like you and/or your spouse are always picking fights. Maybe little things that you used to work out together are suddenly causing arguments.
However, there comes a day when you realize that those arguments have stopped. You don’t know why, and you didn’t do anything differently. You and your spouse simply stopped disagreeing with each other so much and the conflict level in the home seemed to go down. It may be natural to assume that this means your relationship is getting better and divorce is less likely. But it is possible that the opposite is true.
Your spouse may be withdrawing
It is possible that one or both of you is subconsciously trying to avoid confrontation. This means that you may be becoming more disconnected because you are subtly withdrawing as a way to avoid fighting. If so, you may be getting closer to a decision to divorce, not farther away from it.
They may have already decided to move on
In fact, in some cases, arguments will stop as soon as one person decides that they are going to file for divorce. They may not have done it yet, but they know that this is now what they want. Once they are in that mindset, it no longer makes sense to engage in any arguments or conflicts with you. They do not care about changing your mind or getting their way because they know they are going to leave the relationship.
Because a sudden shift in your marital relationship could signal the beginning of the end, it is important to be proactive about protecting your interests. If you or your spouse do decide to file for divorce, it’s important to understand all of your legal rights.
