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3 tips for a child-centered divorce

On Behalf of | Mar 20, 2023 | Divorce |

When you file for divorce, you have a lot to think about. For example, you must consider property division, plan for your financial future and more. However, you should not lose sight of your children. 

Divorce affects all children differently; however, it is usually an emotional and confusing time for them. Because of this, it may be best for everyone if you have a child-centered divorce. Some tips to help you with this are found here. 

1. Don’t view divorce as something you have to win

When divorcing, some couples look at it as winning or losing. However, this attitude often leads to lengthy and expensive court battles. While this is emotionally draining for you, it is for your children, too. If you keep the case out of court, you protect your mental health and the mental health of your children because you are not exposing them to constant conflict. 

2. Focus on the future, not the past

It is easy to get caught up in the emotions of your divorce. However, you should focus on the future and how you want your life and your children’s lives to be a year later. It may also help to talk to your children about why you are divorcing and reassure them it is not their fault. This can help prevent emotional issues for them in the future. 

3. Spend time on self-care and encourage the kids to the same

It may sound strange, but making time for self-care will be beneficial for both you and your children. They can do the same when they see you taking care of yourself and focusing on the good things in your life. That’s a good way to create a sense of normalcy in your daily lives.

Helping your child cope with your divorce

A child-centered divorce is possible, but you and your spouse should agree to it in the beginning. Doing this will help simplify the process, even the legal issues you will encounter. When you take this approach, you will find it easier to move on and focus on your future.