Most people desire a low conflict divorce if they have come to terms with the fact that their marriage has run its course. But there is a big difference between wanting a low conflict divorce and having one. This is because it takes both people to commit to having the right attitude to divorce and being committed to working together for the greater good.
While you can never control how your divorcing spouse will approach the divorce, there are some things that you can do to set yourself up for a low conflict divorce. The following are some things that you can do to keep things civil between you and your divorcing spouse for a less stressful process.
Remember why a low conflict divorce is so important
In moments of tension in which you and your divorcing spouse are on the cusp of an argument, take a deep breath and remember the profound benefits of a low conflict divorce. First off, a low conflict divorce is much less costly because it avoids divorce litigation. It’s also less stressful and hostile. Perhaps most importantly, it tends to have a lesser impact on the children involved and helps divorcing spouses make a healthy transition to becoming coparents.
Prioritize communication
Communication is key in a low conflict divorce. Both parties need to learn to communicate in a mature way, avoiding triggers that lead to anger and truly listening and respecting the other party.
Don’t victimize yourself
Filing like the victim in the situation can make you act negatively. You may focus too much on getting retribution or revenge, holding onto resentment to what has happened in the past. Try to reframe your mindset to a person who is in a position of power, who has rights, and will get the outcome that they want.
If you are going through a divorce and you want to avoid the stress and cost of litigation, having the right mindset is key.
