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3 ways to cool down a high-conflict divorce

On Behalf of | May 18, 2021 | Divorce |

It’s never fun to deal with a conflict. It’s even worse when it’s a conflict that is preventing you from ending your marriage amicably. You may have wanted to walk away without a conflict, but if your spouse won’t allow you to and continues to cause problems, then you need to take steps to minimize conflict in any way you can.

The good news is that you can take some significant steps forward by employing three simple changes in how you approach your divorce. These include the following three tips.

Minimize unnecessary conflict

First, the best thing you can do is to minimize any unnecessary conflict. Though you may want to get involved in a fight with your ex because of their behavior, you need to learn to walk away. Take time to cool off before responding to them, and don’t become the person who is causing more drama. Be the bigger person and remove yourself from arguments. You can always address big concerns in court if the time comes.

Use an intermediary when you communicate

Sometimes, it is necessary to have an intermediary work with you. This doesn’t have to be a person, necessarily. There are court-supervised applications that you can communicate through, for example, or you can ask your ex to refer all questions to concerns to your attorney’s office.

Putting down boundaries like this is a great way to keep yourself sane while minimizing the chances for conflicts to break out.

Get your attorney involved

Finally, if you need to, get your attorney involved. Harassment, threats, attacks on your character and other negative behaviors do need to be addressed. If you’re living in fear or worried about your ex hurting you, it’s possible to get a restraining order. This may be needed in some severe cases, at least until your case is resolved.

These are three ways you can try to cool down a high-conflict divorce and keep yourself moving forward. By knowing when to walk away and get others involved, you can minimize the risk of dragging out your divorce longer or facing unnecessary hardships caused by your ex.