Divorce is a tricky subject to bring up. You may know that you want to end your relationship, but you know that your spouse isn’t on the same page. Maybe they haven’t even thought about it or you know that they are just going to be against it.
The way that you bring up the divorce subject can have a big impact on how this process goes. Here are a few tips that will help:
Avoid placing blame
When talking about divorce, even if you personally do blame your spouse, avoid making statements that sound accusatory. Your spouse is just going to feel attacked and react defensively. Instead, try to calmly and rationally explain that this is something that you want and you are simply informing them of it, not blaming them for it.
Consider the time and location
It’s best that the two of you have this conversation alone, without any outside influences or distractions. You want to bring this up when you have time to talk for as long as necessary. Don’t start the conversation if there are any deadlines coming up that could cut it short.
Don’t make it an emotional conversation
Some people bring up divorce when they get into an argument with their spouse. But it’s best not to start this when you’re feeling emotional or angry. That would just make everything very contentious. Instead, bring divorce up when emotions are calm and the two of you can have a rational conversation about it.
These tips can help, but there’s still a lot to be done. Be sure you know about all of your legal options as you move toward divorce.